Readers question:

Hi Girl, I tried to follow advice of playing hard to get by being unavailable and not showing affection, but how come women aren't chasing me yet? What am I doing wrong or what should I do to play hard to get and actually get women? Confused Bob

Tall Girl answer:

How to play hard to get in a relationship

It's good you tried to follow a advice of playing hard to get, but you need to be careful with this. How to play hard to get can be confusing to someone inexperienced. Most men making a mistake by sending a wrong message of disinterest to a woman you are attracting. She could give up if you didn't respond well and she could move on someone who is more interested in her.

Playing hard to get has idea that you want to increase your perceived value. If you show too much affection and if you are too available, women could try to take advantage of you and loose interest very quickly. So, what should you do when you are trying to play hard to get? Let me explain you a few basics.

How to play hard to get basics

Playing hard to get is very simple. All you need to do is to create and illusion that you are very valuable and in high demand. If you want to show interest in your chosen woman, you need to show her that you have a lot of women and a lot of options in front of you, but you choose to be with her than anyone else.

When lots of women approach you, but you ignore them and pay attention to one specific woman, you will be more attractive in her eyes. Show her that you are assertive and show that anyone would love your attention or be around you.

Playing hard to get is a combination of not giving all your attention to her, while showing interest in her. Show her some interest, then play hard to get. She could be confused at first but reinforce your value by showing her how you treat and relate to all other people.

If you have a lot of friends, know many people it can send a message that you are important. Everyone wants to spend time only with someone who is important and has a higher value. Work on your social proof. Get to know a lot of people, be with them on very good terms, become popular and you will be generally more likable and trustworthy.

Most women don't know your value, that's why it can take a while for them to decide if she is interested in you or not. So, what should you do? You can help her by showing your value to her.

Don't be one hundred percent available all the time, show her that you have busy and interesting life. Show her that you have a lot of options and you meet many women in your life, but give her some attention so she wouldn't confused and could trust you.