How to deal with being ignored
How to deal with being ignored.
Being ignored feels bad, I felt it. The more that person is important to you the more pain and rejection you will experience. It’s nice not to care about people and have uncaring attitude, but what if you want to be appreciated and people ignore you?
First of all, practice the acceptance. The more resistant you are, the more pain and anger you will feel. If you accept the fact that you are ignored no matter how good person you think you are, it will make it easier first of all on YOU.
Acceptance can bring peace to you, it can make you feel better. Even if you don’t agree with it, just be open minded, accept it at least for a moment and you will realize it’s not as bad as it seems to you. So, this is only first step.
Next step, is to realize that just because as wonderful as you are, those people may have different needs based on their past experience. It’s not your fault that they grew up a certain way and attracted to a certain type of people. It’s not your fault that you desire to be noticed and accepted and they can’t give it to you. Sometimes it’s unrealistically to expect something from someone that they can’t give.
More about being ignored
One of the worst feelings of being ignored is rejection. You feel ignored when you have unmet expectations. For example, maybe you expect more attention, more conversation, more hanging out or anything else from that person and if he/she can’t give it to you, you feel ignored. It can create pressure and conflict in relationships.
If someone feels pressured in giving you more attention, they might want to break up and ignore you even more only because they avoid conflict. Most people want to avoid conflict no matter what even if it means further misunderstanding on both sides.
Feeling of being ignored can come from your confusing and fear of rejection. If you can overcome a need of acceptance and fear of rejection then being ignored won’t see so bad. I know some people who just want to be left alone by everyone, they even have fantasies to live in woods away from everyone, so being ignored would be a blessing to some people!
Deal with being ignored
Always try to find positive in every situation. What if someone ignores you now, only to find that you will meet someone better later? Does it sound as bad then? Of course not…Being ignored isn’t always as bad as it seems to you. Maybe they aren’t trying to ignore, but come across this way, only because they have very busy and stressful lives.
If your wish to be the most important person in that person’s life, it’s a nice wish, but it could be only the fantasy you are trying to chase. If you change your perception and won’t rely on real “proof” of acceptance, it can make your life a lot more easier.
Also, it’s possible that you are more needy than most people and it’s not always bad, it’s just different. Everyone is different and it’s not bad. Being more needy or more distant has it’s own advantages, so don’t blame yourself if you come across as a needy person eager for affection, it’s just means that you are different from others and you have certain unfulfilled needs.
But how to deal with being so different? Try not to get angry at yourself first. Just because others don’t do what you want it doesn’t mean that you should be angry. Accept yourself the way you are, accept others and you will feel better.