How to deal with a controlling wife

Do you have a controlling wife who always nagging you and wants it to be her only way? You are not alone, many men after getting married experiencing the same. Woman feels that you need to treat her a certain way because you are married to her. Some wives threaten to get a divorce if you don't do as she told you, others withhold sex to control you and third brainwash you to beleive everything should be her way.

Why did you marry a controlling wife if you aren't happy? Was your wife different before you got married? Maybe you enjoyed her controlling ways before marriage because you thought it's a sign of love...and now it's too much for you to handle.

Maybe your wife doesn't think she is controlling, maybe she just wants to be happy and she perceives happiness differently than you do.

To be happily married you need to have similar values and appreciate what you both can offer to each other. And now, that you are married now how can you deal with your controlling wife?

Dealing with a controlling wife

Dealing with a controlling wife isn't easy. First you need to acknowledge what she asks from you. If she demands you to spend more time with her instead of you going out with your friends, maybe she feels insecure or really wants your attention.

Give her what she wants from you. If you give her what she really wants from you, she will become less controlling. Is it too easy to be true? Or you just don't want to give in to controlling power of your wife?

Is she controls you she could feel insecure. And the more she controls you the more insure she is.

Talk to her and try to resolve her controlling issues.

A woman wouldn't want to be very controlling if she felt secure with you, if she felt you respect all her values. Maybe she is trying to put her values on you and you are resisting her?

Women can't compromise with her core values and what they beleive in, whether you call it controlling or not.

If she wants everything to be her only way and it upsets you, maybe it's the only game she wants to play...Women love when a relationship goes a certain way and maybe it's her dream you to be this way and listen to her. Women have needs in marriage too.

Try to understand and meet her needs or otherwise there wouldn't be marriage. Men and women want to play certain roles when they get married and if you can't meet her need and you feel controlled, then maybe you don't need to be together?

Decide what you want your marriage to be and talk it to your wife. Decide what is more important to you, to live with a controlling wife or to be single forever? Both sides need to come some kind of compromise, if your woman isn't willing to compromise, maybe she feels hurt and insecure and to control is the only way for her to feel safe with you.

Don't get upset or angry too soon, try to understand how your wife feels, if she knows you truly understand her, than she wouldn't have a need to be so controlling...

Tall Girl