Causes of miscarriage at 12 weeks

Contractions during miscarriage

Causes of miscarriage

Nobody knows for sure why miscarriage occurs so often. I had miscarriage myself. My baby died at 8 weeks and I miscarried at 14 weeks. I was reading about causes of miscarriage and this is what I found on internet and got my attention:

1)chromosomal abnormalities

2)having a flu in first month of pregnancy makes miscarriage more often

3)stress produces homrones that maybe cause for miscarriage too.

4)other causes

Reading all of these didn't make me feel any better. Who wants to think that a baby died because of bad luck or chromosomal abnormalities? I thought there should be a better reason than just "bad" luck. People around me were telling me how sorry they are and it didn't make me feel better either. What I understood, most people don't really know what to say anyway. They just trying to show their compassion as they can.

I thought about miscarriage and all of the reasons weren't satisfying for me why it happened to me. Having faith in God you always want to believe that there is a reason for everything. This is what I came up with:

Possible cause of miscarriage from spiritual point of view

I'm a very spiritual person, so I'm always looking for meaning in everything. Personally, to me, a miscarriage happened maybe because God didn't thin it was a right time for me to have a baby.

Certainly I thought it was right time for me to have a baby, that's why I got pregnant. We have our own desires but God can see our situation and circumstances better. God knows better about our lives and everything, so I need just trust God that he takes care of everything.

This point of view helped me to deal with my miscarriage better. Maybe there is a purpose of my baby's death, maybe circumstances have changed and God wanted to bring a baby in a different time for my own good. Maybe it was better for the baby and me from God's point of view.

I never expected miscarriage happen in my life but I believe God has some very good reasons for it to happen.

I'm still trying to appreciate a short life of my baby, of course it wasn't a mistake or a bad luck. It was a precious life that lived only 8 weeks long in me. It was a very confusing experience for me, so I'm sure you are experiencing something similar having to deal with it.

It also can be hard because many people don't know how to express emotional support. I didn't receive much of emotional support either because people around me didn't know how really to help me. It is still very confusing question in my life, because there is no one certain answer. We often think what if and why. Why people who don't want children and don't love children, why they have normal healthy babies. Why hungry women in Africa with aids and poverty are able to give birth to healthy babies. Maybe we are here to learn lessons on this Earth and each of us has to have a very unique experience in this life?

Maybe a reason I had miscarriage is to start writing about it and help other women all around the world? We will never know answers to such questions. We can only know what we choose to believe in.